One question I get asked often by moms or moms-to-be is “how do you do it?” In regards to running my own business and being a mom, wife…etc. The truth is, it’s a juggling act. Sometimes I don’t do it “all.” I use to like to think it was a balancing act, but let’s be honest, sometimes it’s not a balance. It’s hard work man, but somehow you just make it work (as I’m sure all mother’s out there will agree). Being a mom is the most rewarding, amazing job you’ll ever have. I run my business from my home and I feel very blessed that I get to spend time with my little one, but that juggling thing can sometimes be very challenging.
Here are a few things that have helped me with juggling my career and being a mom. Please keep in mind though that my experience might be a little different since I don’t have the typical 9-5, but I thought I’d share in case you might find it helpful.
Getting Help: I use to like to think I could do it all myself. And would actually feel guilty asking for help. When my husband worked, I would try to do as much work as I could while the baby napped and then would stay up until 1 or 2 in the morning working when the baby went down for the night. I realized not only was this not good for my health it’s also not healthy for our family. I now have someone that helps us out 3 days a week. It’s made such a difference and she’s absolutely amazing. While she’s here, I try to get the majority of my work done. She’s also a family friend that I’ve known ever since I was 12 years old, which makes me feel so much more comfortable.
Tip: Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Whether it’s your mother-in-law, parents, sister-in-law. It really does take a village to raise a child. I also have the most amazing husband who supports me 100%. I couldn’t do it without him.
Traveling for Work: I have to travel often for work. I’m actually writing this post right now from the airport heading to New York for a photo shoot. I always try to make my trips 24 hours if I can. I’ll take the red eye and take the next flight home as soon as I’m done. Of course, this isn’t always the case and sometimes I might have to stay 2 days, but I’m very fortunate to work with amazing clients (some who are also moms) that are very accommodating. While I’m away, my husband stays with our son or I have my mom help me out.
Being Present: While I work from home, I make it a point to have special “us” time during the day. Whether it’s taking him to the park in the morning or reading books. I know he’ll only be a toddler once so I really want to enjoy him as much as I can. During this time I try to make it a point not to check email or go on social media.
It's OK to say NO: Many times I've turned down trips or attending events if I feel it takes away too much time from being with my family and that's OK. At the end of the day they are my #1 priority and it's ok to say "No."
If I've had a stressful week, I just like to remind myself this bible verse “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” I CAN be a mom, wife, career woman. And I know you can do it do!
How do you “balance” work and being a mom? Any tips you can share?
If I've had a stressful week, I just like to remind myself this bible verse “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” I CAN be a mom, wife, career woman. And I know you can do it do!
How do you “balance” work and being a mom? Any tips you can share?
I do the exact same thing. I try to dedicate days to work in advance. That doesn't always work but at least I have structure. Now I have outside help too, my MIL, my mom, and my gf's 17 year old daughter who is studying child development and my daughter just adores. All and all, I say you are doing very well and have your priorities straight.
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